Fibromyalgia Tips For Friends, Family And Co-Workers Of People Who Suffer With FMS
People With Fibromyalgia Can Be Helped By Putting Some Of These Fibromyalgia Tips Into Action!
Having experienced the symptoms of FMS since 1978 [even before it was recognized by most as a legitimate disorder] I have had to deal with the reactions of friends, family and co-workers to my illness. I want to share with you some of these Fibromyalgia Tips that I've picked up along the way. I would say that without a doubt that if you do not know someone with FM, you do not understand it....not really. If you are acquainted with someone with fibromyalgia, there are certain things that they desperately need you to know. These are several points and suggestions [tips] I would like to make to those who know of someone with fibromyalgia [FMS]. "You look fine to me."..MMF Fibromyalgia Tips, #1 I do not know how many times I have heard this over the years. This is why fibromyalgia is sometimes referred to as "The Invisible Illness". Please recognize that "seeing is not always believing!". Looks can be deceiving, especially with people with FM. People sometimes think that people with fibromyalgia are just lazy or depressed. Don't even think that, "If they just push themselves a bit, they can do anything the rest of us can do", just because they don't look sick! The fact of the matter is that fibromyalgia is a medical illness, not a psychiatric one, and all the wishing or pushing in the world will not help. As often implied, it is not "all in their heads". I have often replied when a doctor or friend asks me how I am feeling to look deep into my eyes, and take a gander at my soul. Then and only then will they possibly comprehend how I feel. "Oh, I've felt that way at times. I get tired and achy also!"...MMF Fibromyalgia Tips, #2 It is mainly people saying "I've had that too!" which can be devastating. Please do not feel tempted to find common ground with those who have fibromyalgia. You may be well intentioned but saying "I've had that too!" is as if I, Bill Wallmuller, hadn't lived 31 years before getting this illness and as if I didn't know the difference between what I have now and what I was like before. I....we are not "making a mountain out of a mole hill". No need to suggest that all I...we need is some more rest. "Have you tried the latest FM treatment of choice?"... MMF Fibromyalgia Tips, #3 Friends and family and [yes, even fellow people with fibromyalgia] sometimes suggest using, with good intentions, any and all alternative medical treatments in existence. When doing so they manage to imply, usually without intending to, that because we with FM do not follow their advice, that it is our own fault we are sick. Poppycock! Please don't put this guilt trip on us with fibromyalgia. The last thing a person with FM needs is to feel blamed for being ill. I came across this article while doing internet research. It is a very good article for sharing with some friends or "caregivers and helpers." It is also a great help to those with FMS or CFIDS by helping us realize our friends need some compassion as they learn a new way to be with and interact with us. Clicking the Title takes you to the article. "Most folks are about as happy as
Fibromyalgia TIP- The Better We Inform Ourselves,
A person with fibromyalgia is always better off being able to communicate with others with the same disorder. There is beneficial relief in sharing one's experiences with others with FM, hearing what helps for some, and what doesn't help for others, etc.
Attending Support Group Meetings if possible is ideal. Sometimes though, support groups are not always near by and convenient. This is where online support in the form of Message Boards, Chat Rooms and just reading Web Pages about other peoples experiences, can be a blessing to us with FM.
If you are acquainted with anyone with fibromyalgia, and they do not have access to or the finances available to obtain a computer, you can really show your concern by helping them to obtain this important channel of support.
One does not have to spend a lot of money today on a basic computer capable of surfing the net and getting access to an Internet Service Provider [hint: maybe you could sign them on as an identity on your ISP account]. Even the most computer illiterate person can learn enough to be able to contact some good well intentioned FM Chat Rooms and FM Message Boards. I have found that having a computer for the last 10 years and being able to contact, communicate, research and exchange ideas with others with fibromyalgia to be most beneficial.
Has yours or your family's income been constrained due to your fibromyalgia or chronic illness? Here are some ways to save to help you to keep within your budget:
1] Save on groceries. You can compare prices in supermarkets in your area by product, category or store at mygrocerydeals.com or groceryguide.com . Both sites are free, but you will have to register to use these sites. If you didn't receive the grocery coupons on products that you use in the mail, you probably can find valuable product coupons at sites such as coupons.com .
2] “Scratch and Dent” stores can sell groceries, appliances, and more, discounted by 50% or more. This type of store buys up large quantities of items damaged [“scratch and dent”], out of season or near or beyond their sell-by dates, or just don't sell well. Go to a site such as andersonscountrymarket.com/directory for a state by state list.
3] Don't hesitate to ask a doctor for a discount. Call a local health insurer and ask for what they pay for area doctors for a consultation or test. You can also visit healthcarebluebook.com . This number is usually lower than what the doctor's charge. Negotiate with the doctor in person before you treatment is tended, and not with his office personnel. Also, don't be too bashful to ask your doctor for free samples of any drugs he may prescribe. Most doctors receive a decent amount of free drug samples from the various drug manufacture representatives that call on them for this purpose.
4] Need your hair done. Besides it making you feel better about yourself, you deserve the indulgence once in awhile, but.... don't spend a fortune. See if there is a Beauty Salon School near by. You can get professional work done by students who are supervised by trained professional and experienced Hair Salon teachers for a lot less than what you might normally pay at your local Beauty Salon.
5] In the same light, you can get needed dental care for a fraction of the cost from Dentist-supervised students at a Dental School. Check the website ada.org/ dental schools and see if there is a school near you. You can also check the website nidcr.nih.gov and click Finding Dental Care to find low cost, federally funded care.
6] Extend your printer ink by using the Century Gothic font, which consumes about a third less ink than the standard arial font as shown by a recent study.
7] Buy Store Brands [private labels brands] instead of Main Brands. Try them to see if you like them [in most cases you will]. Using store brands can save you a lot of money often without sacrificing quality. For example; if you spend $135 to $140 per week on groceries you can save nearly $1950 per year by substituting store brands. Where I live in Florida, Publix Supermarkets makes and sell its own premium ice cream that is as good or better than many name brands, costs less on average and is still sold in a full ½ gallon container. Most name brands have shrunk their original ½ gallon products to as little as 1.5 qt for the same original 2 qt. Price.
8] Always make a written shopping list when you go to the grocery store and more importantly, stick to the list. If you do you can avoid being tempted by all the stores' marketing efforts and subtle tricks they use in trying to get you to buy more than you had planned to buy in the first place.
I hope this material was helpful to the friends, family and co-workers who know someone with fibromyalgia. We plan to bring more tips and points of view on this subject at a future date.
PS. We *cannot* answer online questions about nor recommend available medical professionals in any areas, nor many technical questions and/or questions about recommended treatment protocols via e-mail. We would need a dozen or so staff members in different specialties to do so. Please ask these types of questions on our forum. 
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